Being a mum of two is really hard. I have a newfound admiration for mums of multiples. I literally do not understand how you do it when kids in your household outnumber the adults. I get anxious enough thinking about all the things I need to pack for two just to leave the house. Let alone the amount of washing, cooking and entertaining!
A lot of people have been asking how I’m coping. The word cope literally means to ‘deal effectively with something difficult’. Yes we’re coping but life with two kids is difficult. Some days they’re both chirpy and I have no issues. Other days they’re both crying, and I have to decide who needs me more in that moment.
I constantly feel guilty for not paying attention to each of my boys enough. My day revolves around putting one down to pick the other one up on repeat. I would literally pay someone to teach me how to get both of them to nap at once.
No, I don’t have a routine for my newborn yet and I’m fine with that. In fact, I’m trying not to over think it all. The only structure that exists in our day revolves around my toddler’s routine:
- Breakfast by 8am
- Morning Tea 10:30am
- Nap time 12:00pm
- Lunch 2pm
- Dinner 5pm
- Bath time 6pm
- Bed 6:30pm
Survival is key, and the activities that we do between these mealtimes are all about coping.
- I keep books on the couch so that I can I feed on demand whilst reading to my toddler.
- The TV goes on when I need a moment to prep food or change a nappy and I refuse to feel guilty for the screen time.
- When I get a chance during my toddler’s nap, I set up activities outside such as playdoh or water table so that when he gets up, he has something to occupy him for 20-30 minutes.
- His play table always has pencils and paper our ready to go.
- We go to the park if its sunny or walk around the shops if it’s raining just to get out of the house.
- Luckily my toddler loves babyccinos (just milk foam) and will sit quietly at a café drinking one so that I can have a coffee. I save this activity for mornings following nightmare sleepless nights.
- Mum is on speed dial to lend a hand or take my toddler for the day so that I can catch my breath and prepare to do it all the very next day.
Coping with two is crazy but we’re doing it, and you can too. Don’t be too hard on yourself, you’ve got this one day at a time.
Mumma Z xxx